In this life so far, I have been very put off by girls who are looking for guys with "money". Fancy cars, expensive jewelry, etc etc. I mean sure a fancy car is fun, but who's driving it? And Expensive jewelry, what does it really mean if it's not meant with love. I married before I was legally able to go to bars so I didn't fully experience the scene but I never liked hearing girls talking about getting free drinks as a main goal. It just sounds mean. Ok so if you meet a nice boy who decides to buy you a drink that's OK, but you're not going out for that purpose. I never conisdered money when looking for a mate. I guess I always felt that if you find the right person you will become rich together.
My first boyrfirend was a very poor, but sweet, teenager who rode dirtbikes and knew alot about cars. OK so you can say I was young.
I married someone who was not wealthy by any means, and we were both young. He even had debt I dare say. We struggled for sure and we could have done a lot better managing our money.
Perhaps this comes from my disagreement at a young age that women were traded for cattle and such, or sold off for marriage in similar ways.
Some women seem to be utterly driven by the search for a monied man. Men even drop comments and try to seem as wealthy as they can to help pick up women.
I have pondered this phenomena. I suppose that the idea of an already wealthy man does give some security, but it is also the lowest thing I can imagine basing a relationship on. Imagine all the unhappy rich women living in Beverly Hills, sure they can buy whatever they want but they are empty inside if they married for money.
Not to say it is bad to be successful it's a great sign of ability and competence, and that in itself is attractive, but to me success comes with good nature and smart intention and actions to gain it. That is the most fun to experience, the game of creating. To share in the accomplishment.
If a wealthy man were to come along, I surely would not consider him any more or less relationship material, personally. It's how well do you get along and how attracted are you and what do you both love to do? From there anything else is just a bonus.
But I also find that wealthy men can be very jaded. They may think women only want them for their money and also will have had their fair share of women who did probably only want them for their money. Or they think that they are in some way superior and flaunt their wealth in order to attract women, which is gross.
I suppose this wierd game goes back to the old south where women tried to marry plantation owners and there were those socially elite. Even the south to this day I think imitates this idea somewhat, with marrying into a wealthy family and the status of it all. This is fine to do but not if that was the goal all along. If you searched out a wealthy man, then that is I suppose your choice but it's always been an oddity to me. If you happen to find a prince charming who is also welathy but you could care less and he could too, then that is totally wonderful. Or you could both be poor and marry and then make yourselves into millionaires together. Either way, I suppose it's all just a matter of real love. Only real love can win.
